Lets Lighten the Load

I have dropped guilt like a sack of bricks a few years back., we shall start a little

Such a small word with such huge impact on our mental and emotional well being and if it does go far enough physical ass well. I have now made quite the little research project on the word since I just wanted to be impressive and give you the definition of guilt. What a rude awakening how many definitions do exist. Guilt has so many sub-levels and divisions it should be a sickness like the flu.

This is now where it gets me shaking my head. According to some line of thinking it is a good thing if we feel guilt towards basically humanity , because that factored in will make us act nicer towards our fellow humans. Excpet for the word act; Lets pause for a moment and read that philosophy again. That is mind-blowingly self destructive and not at all why one should help someone or care for them. Here guilt becomes the main emotion for being or doing good deeds.

We are going to dissect this whole guilt thing and the toxicity of it as well as the toxic people who love sending you on that unnecessary trip you did not need or deserve.

We are first going to start at the start and that is exploring more daily moot stuff we get compliant to.

When last did you just sit down and rest?

I do mean listen to your music, let's say a glass of wine or for the men a beer. We need to get our exercise in saying no in small doses, hence we are not jumping in at the deep end regarding the BIG G stuff yet. Try not being not so suutjies poep for a change - I don't like mushrooms on my pizza. Instead of not wanting to make effort for someone else. If someone picks food off your plate and you do not like it say no. A few people will here not their heads in agreement about chilies.

NO. That is a full sentence guys.

Now that will just get met started on that fucking word compromise in a relationship. Compromises definition in my books is: One person will be unhappy at then end of the compromise, and usually only that one person seems to compromise. If you do not like his mother and he wants you to go with every goddamn Sunday for a visit - say no thanks. Always remember it is not what you say but how you say it. Do not go and be a bitch or men a bastard about it. Say no thank you and please do not start with 1001 excuses . Your friends and family do not want to hear it and your enemies do not believe it. Practice saying no thank you I am not in the mood, or I do not like it much.

Everything in life does not happen in isolation, and so did the path that you were running down so committed for how many years also a combination of all those nit pickers and perfect people. They also rest and they also say no much more easier than you could ever imagine you will be able to. I do have a goal with the approach of our little projects we need to make a skill on novice level. To become the master takes practice and time, and when you take out that boss at work, or irritating family member or neighbor -- You have to own that shit. Our little projects together makes one big difference without you even going to notice it until that one day that one comment that is going to go too far from your Pet Peever that keeps Petting your Peeves.

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